Practical Tips for the Stressed and Overwhelmed

Great advice from Winston T. Smith in his mini-book Divorce RecoveryThe booklet is on divorce, but the advice is universal for those who are overwhelmed by what to do next.

“Use the simple strategy of making two lists:

-On list #1 write down all the things you are concerned about: all the decisions you have to make, all the details you need to take care of, and everything you are worried about.

-On list #2 write down all of the items from the first list that you can and should do somthing about today.  Pray over both lists, and put the first one away, entrusting it to God.

-Focus for today on the tasks on your second list.  Once you’ve spent a reasonable amount of time working on your list, put it away, pray again, and trust God to be at work even when you’re not thinking or worrying.

-Do this each day.  Keep rewriting both lists as you go froward.  And keep praying over each list.  Some things you will be able to cross off as God helps you to complete them, and some things you will be able to cross off as things change and you no longer need to do them.

 

 

 

Discipleship, Stress, Time Management

Lack of love and authenticity. . a symptom of unbelief

I’m previewing a set of mini-books that we are making available at Open Arms Church in our soon to be book booth.  The mini-books from CCEF (Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation) are on a variety of topics and I’m finding them to be very good.

The booklet titled Starting Over: How Not to Screw Up Your Next Relationship, the author says on page 9:

“. . .two false faiths – that God is unable or unwilling to act – keep you from loving well.  The apostle Paul clearly explains real love by saying, “Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keep no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perserveres” (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).  When you see yourself doing the opposite of what Paul calls us to do – when instead of loving others you are impatient, unkind, envious, boastful, proud, rude, self-seeking, easily angered, and unable to forgive – then you can be sure that your belief and your experience of Christ’s goodness and power is weak.

There’s another great quote on page 12:

It is scary to look at yourself if you think that your relationship with him depends on how good you are.  But let this truth sink in deeper than your fears: His goodness brought you into his family and, now that you belong, His goodness is what keeps you in.  The safety and security that he gives you is what lets you look at yourself, invite his perspective, and ask (as well as answer!) the hard questions.

Good stuff!

Uncategorized

What About Emotions?

What place do emotions play in our lives as Christians?  If I feel angry or depressed is that necessarily sin?  Is it a temptation?

Tedd David Tripp shares some helpful thoughts in his book Instruments in the Redeemer’s Hands, a book on discipleship and personal ministry (a book I have found very helpful).

. . .Scripture depicts the full range of human emotions.

Emotion pervades every aspect of our lives, which is why it is not a separate category by which we sort information about a person.

Every fact about people is dyed with emotion.  It is woven into every situation, response, thought and motive we have.

Thoughts do no not exist in an emotionless void either.  If we think our work is impossible, we face the task with frustration and discouragement.  If we grasp in our hearts the goodness, grace, and glory of the Lord, we live with joy and hope.  You can’t fully understand what people are thinking unless you know what they feel as well.  Our feelings express our reactions to our interpretations – and we turn around and interpret our feeling as well.

Motives are no different.  My emotions are one of the ways my heart expresses what I crave, treasure, and serve.  If I live for your affection and you reject me, emotions of sadness and anger will infuse my life.  If I treasure personal achievement and succeed, I will be happy, thought I may not have joy and my happiness may be fleeting.  If we want to know what people really want, we have to learn about their emotional life.  Happiness is the result of getting what my heart craves.  Discouragement is the emotional response of my heart when the thing I live for moves farther away from me.  My heart is filled with fear when I suddenly lose what I am convinced I need.  In short, our emotions reflect what we worship.  They reveal what has captured our hearts.  God gave us emotions as he made us in his image; they are intended to help us live in communion with him.  They are a key indicator of whether we are living in joyful covenantal communion with him or in the service of something else.

Discipleship, Quotes, Uncategorized

Gospel-Centered Discipleship

Some great points and perspectives on discipleship. Jonathan Dodson, pastor of Austin City Life church shares thoughts from his book Gospel-centered Discipleship.

Some time stamps in the conversation are included below the video.

Justin Taylor Interviews Jonathan Dodson: “Gospel Centered Discipleship” from Crossway on Vimeo.

0:10 – In an ideal world, if Gospel-Centered Discipleship accomplished exactly what you wanted it to accomplish, how would churches, disciple-makers and disciples look different?

2:31 – What does it mean to be a disciple?

5:08 – So many people are using the term “gospel-centered” that it can seem like a buzz word or a fad. Why did you choose to use this phrase in the title of your book?

7:44 – You talk about not only sharing your faith but also your failures. Looking back at the last ten years of discipling others, how has your disciple-making changed? What are the differences? Where did you drop the ball?

11:35 – How are “Fight Clubs” different from the typical accountability partner or accountability group?

14:50 – JT: “I had a hard time putting the book down, and I hope other people not only pick it up but read it and then apply it.”

 

 

 

Discipleship, Gospel Centered Living, Making Disciples, Uncategorized

Importance of Sound Teaching AND Real Community

What is more important; doctrine or loving one another, sound teaching or real community? 

A quote from Francis Schaefer’s book The Church Before the Watching World:

One cannot explain the explosive dynamite, the dunamis, of the early church apart from the fact that they practiced two things simultaneously: orthodoxy of doctrine and orthodoxy of community in the midst of the visible church, a community which the world can see. By the grace of God, therefore, the church must be known simultaneously for its purity of doctrine and the reality of its community.

C.J. Mahaney has some great thoughts on this in his articleReal Community and the Power of the Church.

Discipleship, Quotes

Avoiding Burnout

It is so easy to begin to live and serve and minister depending on our own strength rather than leaning on Christ and the gospel.  Bob Osborne who is the executive director of World Harvest Mission was recently inverviewed about avoiding burnout in ministry.  You can read the full article here.

As pastors, workers, or missionaries, our busyness can easily overwhelm our ability to hold onto God’s love for us in Christ, and God’s presence with us as we live in fellowship with the Spirit. We’ve found that the only way to authentically teach these things is to be experiencing them ourselves.

To hold onto the gospel, workers like us need some degree of humility, flexibility, and adaptability. We look for people who have an awareness and understanding of their sin patterns, a strong grasp of the gospel, and can apply the gospel to their lives. We know that whether engaged in cross-cultural ministry abroad or working in the home office, our sin affects how we relate to one another, and we work at applying what we preach and teach to one another.

World Harvest Mission also published a short study called The Gospel Centered Life which is aimed at helping the reader’s life and heart to be more saturated and dependant on the gospel.  It is an excellent resource that I have used many times.

 

 

Discipleship, Gospel Centered Living, Interviews, Quotes

It is good to be near God

A couple of great quote’s from an article called Getting it Right by Paul David Tripp.  He starts his article with Psalm 73:28

“But for me it is good to be near God; I have made the Lord my refuge that I may tell of all your works.”      Psalm 73:28 ESV

 Getting it right means acknowledging God’s presence, remembering his rescue, and obeying his call.

Grace has made it impossible for you to be alone. God’s greatest gift to you is himself! But you and I don’t always acknowledge his presence. There are moments in life when we get it wrong, where we live as if he doesn’t exist. When we act as if he is distant, we panic in the face of the normal difficulties of life in this fallen world and in the face of the perplexities of God’s sovereign plan. Or else we fall into trying to do God’s job, and in so doing, complicate our lives all the more. Does your daily living celebrate that grace has brought you near to God and God near to you?

Gospel Centered Living, Quotes, Worship

Martin Luther on Spiritual Warfare

This is a portion of a letter written to a 31-year-old friend of Martin Luther’s who had taught Luther’s children, lived in his home and was struggling with spiritual despair.

. . Excellent Jerome, You ought to rejoice in this temptation of the devil because it is a certain sign that God is propitious and merciful to you.

You say that the temptation is heavier than you can bear, and that you fear that it will so break and beat you down as to drive you to despair and blasphemy. I know this wile of the devil. If he cannot break a person with his first attack, he tries by persevering to wear him out and weaken him until the person falls and confesses himself beaten.

Whenever this temptation comes to you, avoid entering upon a disputation with the devil and do not allow yourself to dwell on those deadly thoughts, for to do so is nothing short of yielding to the devil and letting him have his way.

Try as hard as you can to despise those thoughts which are induced by the devil. In this sort of temptation and struggle, contempt is the best and easiest method of winning over the devil.

Laugh your adversary to scorn and ask who it is with whom you are talking.

By all means flee solitude, for the devil watches and lies in wait for you most of all when you are alone. This devil is conquered by mocking and despising him, not by resisting and arguing with him. . .

When the devil throws our sins up to us and declares we deserve death and hell, we ought to speak thus:

“I admit that I deserve death and hell.

What of it?

Does this mean that I shall be sentenced to eternal damnation?

By no means.

For I know One who suffered and made a satisfaction in my behalf.

His name is Jesus Christ, the Son of God.

Where he is, there I shall be also.”

Yours,
Martin Luther

Discipleship, Quotes

Siginificance of the Lord’s Supper

What should we be thinking when we take the Lord’s Supper.  J. I. Packer shares some powerful thoughts in, “The Gospel and the Lord’s Supper,” in Serving the People of God, vol. 2 of Collected Shorter Writings of J. I. Packer (Carlisle: Paternoster, 1998), 49-50. (J.I. Packer is the author of Knowing God, a must read book on the character of God).

 I don’t think we can ever say too much about the importance of an active exercise of mind and heart at the communion service. .

Holy Communion demands us of private preparation of heart before the Lord before we come to the table. We need to prepare ourselves for fellowship with Jesus Christ the Lord, who meets us in this ceremony. We should think of him both as the host of the communion table and as enthroned on the true Mount Zion referred to in Hebrews 12, the city of the living God where the glorified saints and the angels are.

The Lord from his throne catches us up by his Spirit and brings us into fellowship with himself there in glory. He certainly comes down to meet us here, but he then catches us up into fellowship with him and the great host of others who are eternally worshipping him there.

We are also to learn the divinely intended discipline of drawing assurance from the sacrament. We should be saying in our hearts, ‘as sure as I see and touch and taste this bread and this wine, so sure it is that Jesus Christ is not a fancy but a fact, that he is for real, and that he offers himself to be my Saviour, my Bread of Life, and my Guide to glory. He has left me this rite, this gesture, this token, this ritual action as a guarantee of this grace; He instituted it, and it is a sign of life-giving union with him, and I’m taking part in it, and thus I know that I am his and he is mine forever.’ That is the assurance that we should be drawing from our sharing in the Lord’s Supper every time we come to the table.

And then we must realize something of our togetherness in Christ with the rest of the congregation. . . . [We should reject the] strange perverse idea . . . that the Lord’s Supper is a flight of the alone to the Alone: it is my communion I come to make, not our communion in which I come to share. You can’t imagine a more radical denial of the Gospel than that.

The communion table must bring to us a deeper realization of our fellowship together. If I go into a church for a communion service where not too many folk are present, to me it is a matter of conscience to sit beside someone. This togetherness is part of what is involved in sharing in eucharistic worship in a way that edifies.

Discipleship, Quotes

Worship and Missions

The book Let the Nations be Glad by John Piper makes the case that missions exists because God is not worshipped in all nations by all people groups.  Missions is not the ultimate purpose of the church; worship is. 

Pipers 3 hour long seminar in which he teaches on missions is now available on his website. You can view the first session at Desiring God Ministries  as well as download the audio or video of all 3 sessions.  Well worth your time!

 

Missions, Uncategorized, Worship